There is an appointed time for everything, and a time for every thing under the heavens. A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to uproot the plant. A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to tear down, and a time to build. A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance. A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them; a time to embrace, and a time to be far from embraces. A time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away. A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to be silent, and a time to speak. A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
I’ve heard this Bible verse many, many times and never stopped to really think about it. But this past weekend at a funeral for my friend’s dad the Deacon spoke about it in great depth. He talked about life being this “collision of opposites:” tear down and build up, weep and laugh, love and hate.
It made me think of my own life. The ups and downs, this collision of opposites, of the past year, month, week, day or even hour. I sometimes refer to this as the roller coaster of life. Sitting in the pew listening, sitting among some of my best friends, I thought about how I get so down on myself with these changing emotions and yet that is what life is. We need those down moments in order to learn and build ourselves up again. We need to lose in order to seek, we need time to speak in order to be silent, we need to mourn in order to dance.
Later in the day I was watching a TV show where two friends were talking about how to grieve properly. We all know that there is no one way but one of the girls shared that she cries when she needs to and laughs at other times, dances at some moments or mourns the loss at others. Again, she’s talking about this collision of opposites, this piece of life.
As the Bible verse goes, “there is an appointed time for everything, and a time for every thing under the heavens.” My time will come for so many things. But until then I’ll connect with and embrace this collision of opposites mindset.